Forgive me for this, but forget the race to the top. Please. Let go of constant streaming activity. Just stop. Sink into your holy self. Submerge your synapses in silence.
Engage in the wholehearted, holy pause.
The world can wait. Yes, it can. Even if you think it canâ€™t. I promise you it can.
You will not be lost. Left behind. Forgotten. On the contrary, you are likely to be revered. Leaps ahead. Beloved. Your actions teach. Others are watching. Absorbing. Mirroring because our minds are wired to do this monkey-see, monkey-do dance.
Are you brave enough to pull the plug?
Cease. Breathe. Rest. Before you go mad from being â€˜crazy busy.â€™ BE the cycle breaker. Fearless warrior of rest & rejuvenation. Front runner of a new way of BEing.
Go only as far as you need. Then Stop.
Can you struggle through the process? Daily practice is required. Labyrinthine concentration a necessity. A certain jaunty willingness to be out of fashionâ€¦at least until the rest of us monkeys wake up and realize life is passing us by. Days lost. Years gone. Never to be seen or heard from again.
Lost opportunities to meander in the woods. Sit in deep connection with a friend (not chattering, connecting). Chart the intricacies of the inner landscape. Slowly peel an orange and lose yourself in the texture. Flavor. Scent. All sacrifices on the altar of rushing.
Release your self-sacrificing habits.
Stop living someone elseâ€™s version of your life. Seek out your own best way forward. Listen. Move organically. Without compromise. Sacrifice. Settling for less than you are.
A note for early adoptersâ€¦
Itâ€™s rough out here. No paved roads. Guideposts or signs pointing the way. Sometimes you donâ€™t see a kindred soul for weeks (unless you frequent meditation halls). But Iâ€™m not talking about sitting-on-a-meditation-cushion-in-a-quite-hall style pausing. Iâ€™m talking about kids screaming, work insanity, partner/friend driving you crazy style pausing. Shut down your cell phone/computer. Go wander in the woods time-outs.
Even when itâ€™s crazy. Especially when you think you canâ€™t.
No instruction manual for that, not yet. Perhaps weâ€™ll write one together someday when enough mirror neurons tip away from sacrificial living and towards living sacredâ€¦
In the meantime, here are some suggestions for getting started:
- Discover a place where you feel connected. Go there often. Calendar it. Non-negotiable time. Do it at least twice a week. More if possible.
- Anchor in a way that works for you: breathe; feel your feet; stand up and shake it out. Use this when in stressful or toxic situations you canâ€™t get out of quickly.
- Catch yourself. Notice youâ€™re in over your eyeballs. Stop. Even if for one or two minutes at a time. Eventually, your mind will meet up with your intentions and youâ€™ll be able to pause for longer.
How do you know where your edge is?
What do you do to engage your holy pause?
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