â€œThe fish will be the last to discover water.â€Â ~Albert Einstein
Be the Smarter Fish.
Sometimes we get caught up in the net of our lives. Hauled onto the hard wood of the ship flopping and floundering. Desperate. When this happens to you remember â€“ Itâ€™s NOT your fault. Odds are you were swimming along toward whatever you desired and got hooked by something. Unresolved feelings. Old patterns. Trauma. Inner critics.
When snagged by the flotsam and jetsam of life, it is easy to lose perspective
To struggle. Resist. Agonize over escape routes. Blame the hook. Flail about trying to be anywhere but RIGHT HERE. Happens to all of us â€“ this refusal to accept whatâ€™s in front of us. Sometimes we donâ€™t even know weâ€™re doing it â€“ these attempts to control. Manage. Overcome. Again, NOT your fault. Youâ€™ve been trained toward resistance. Away from surrender. Towards self-containment at any cost. Tutored in all the ways and means of not knowing the water around you.
Make no mistake, it is a costly thing to avoid yourself.
Pricetag? Your peace of mind. Calmness. Ability to take grounded action. Flailing makes you panic. Run. Blame. Avoid. Healing cannot happen. Wounds get submerged. Stuffed below the waterline. Piling up for the next hook coming along soon. There are always hooks. Before long, you are primed for eruptions of tsunami-style proportions. Easy to anger. Reactive. Depressed for no clear reason. Lost to yourself.
Sometimes the way out is through, not away fromâ€¦
Instead of becoming a tsunami inside, consider turning toward yourself. Yes, even if you are: Flopping. Floundering. Flailing on the ship deck. Locked in pain. Shame. Grief. Whatever. Commit to feeling what is there. Acknowledge yourself in all your emotional variety. Feel your feelings. Chaotic. Conflicting.Â Co-Creative. Dare to look your sadness/anger/fear in the eyes. On the other side lies your love. Joy. Ease.
If it is too much to bear alone, call a trusted friend. Therapist. Healer. Whatever you do,
Let yourself rest rather than resist.
Drop down. Sink. Surrender. Be the fish who knows the water in which she swims. Dare to differ. Still the waters.
What ‘life hooks’ leave you flailing?
How do you take care of your feelings?
An Invitation to You:
Get to know your Feeling Self. Commit to spending 3-5 minutes a day, sensing into how you feel. Write your feelings in a note, to no one in particular. Just for you. Seal it up. Store it in a box. Make it your treasure chest. A place where you go to keep yourself honest. Fully Expressed. REAL. Less hook-able by life. More open.
ABOUTÂ SHANNON CROSSMAN